Bellasmile, yes it was platonic and our conversations were amazing. At my age and all of you need not jump on me because I know this might be crazy. Deep down I somehow still believe in the marriage vow even though the estranged husband, neither of my children do not just me!!
I believe our conversations were totally uplifting for both of us. More importantly I trusted him, which for me is extremely difficult. As a victim of childhood abuse I still find it very hard to trust people. Now I think he may be a very depressed man having to deal with all this organization stuff. Yes he was everything I described always till the day I questioned his religion and the book on Families. He never told me any of the JW rules, you do not question --- hahaha see my name "rebel" that is who I have been since the day I was born. "Fighter" that is there because the Elder no matter what it is you will FIGHT it my response "you got that right"
I figured eventually when the timing was right we could be together. Yes at one point I was about to file for divorce because the abuse had escalated again but as my luck would have it his health took a temporary turn for the worse and we went through 6 months of dr appts and hospitals. Once again I approached his sister (only blood relative) about taking him. Well the answer I got was "--------------- NO -------'---" you can fI'll in the blank she missed none of them but she did thank me over and over again for taking care of her brother. LOL that is my life -just make sure the life insurance is paid current. When he gets to Bad I remind him where the front door is and he is more then welcomed to exit do not return.
Back to the Elder, he talked like we would be together at some point but I think it had to be on his terms and the book on Families was that introduction. As he said he wanted to see how I would react. And as it was I temperatured my reaction he did not stick around for my full reaction.
I know 5 years sounds like a long time but it goes by very quickly when you are in the middle of crazy insane people. I only gave a sample of craziness of what happened during those years.